7 Common Truths That Will Help Writers Handle Rejection Productively

Today’s guest post is by Regine Ward.

The more effort and energy you pay to a piece of writing, the more painful rejection is. To add to the misery, we often tend to dramatize these situations and dive to the depths of despair and frustration.

What we all need to remember is though bitter, rejection is not a tragedy. With the right approach, it can be turned into an instructive and motivating experience. The truths I’m going to present here are not new. Nevertheless, they keep me going even if I feel like quitting.

1. You’re Not Alone

We choose acknowledged, outstanding personalities to be our role models. We seek inspiration from their victories and work to meet the high standards we set for ourselves. Having bumped into another obstacle, we start questioning every little thing we’ve done on the way to success.

Life is diverse and unpredictable. Everybody fails. The greatest authors struggled on the way to success, as have your fellow writers. You’re more than “not alone.” In fact, you’re in a pretty good company.

2. Once You’ve Hit Rock Bottom, There’s Only Up

Your novel has been rejected once again, you have no freelance projects, your coffee machine stopped working. All the inspirational, motivational posts out there seem to be so fake and distant from reality that you want to slam your laptop closed and never open it to type another word again.

Have you recognized yourself here? Congratulations! You’ve reached the final stop of the “misery” train. You’re the one to decide whether to go for another ride or switch the destination point. Take a deep breath and say, “Things will get better from now on. I can make it.”

The right mind-set is a huge part of success. Sometimes we don’t even realize ours needs adjustments.

3. Acceptance Is a Step toward Change

The important thing in dealing with rejection is having courage to actually face it. It’s no use lying to yourself about the way you feel when you’re unhappy, angry, or desperate. Recognize the negative emotions you’re going through, and stay aware of them.

Blaming the universe for all the bad things that happen to you may be quite relaxing. But if you’re ready to take action, study the obstacle that made you fall, estimate the energy you’ll need to overcome it, and prepare to move on.

4. Time Is the Best Medicine

Distance and time help one gain new perspective. When your writing career appears to have reached a dead-end, a change of activity may be really precious.

Forget about the rejection thing for a while. Take a couple of days to clean every little corner of your house, meet friends, or watch all the movies you didn’t have time for while writing. Your brain will be subconsciously seeking solutions all the time. To help it do that, get your consciousness absorbed in something else.

5. Talk Is Not Cheap

Yeah, this one is a slightly altered version of the original saying. Surviving rejection is much easier when you have someone to share with. A regular conversation with the one you really trust may easily turn into a therapy session. If the person knows you well, they’re likely to pose you the right questions—ones that will not just make you feel better but also move you away from the failure-created deadlock.

6. Enjoy the Ride

Having gone through your share of crying over rejection, move to the next stage. The positive side of failure is in the opportunities to learn and experiment on the way to success. Sooner or later every writer, aiming high, realizes that there’s more than one way to the top. Failure can be a powerful stimulus to look for your own unique one.

Changing your route may be a bit scary. That’s when your journey may get lots of exciting twists. Remember: enjoying the ride is as important as the final result.

7. Don’t Give Up

Quitting is always the easiest option. We probably all think of it from time to time. Why keep trying, if it doesn’t work anyway?

There’s a difference between giving up and taking a step back. There’s a difference between changing the activity and abandoning all attempts to succeed. Consider all the options, and make a reasonable choice.

Whenever you feel like forgetting about writing, imagine you’re the main character of your book. Do you think your move is logical? Maybe it’s high time you did something else? Wouldn’t the plot be more engaging if you kept working for your goals? Shouldn’t you be more of a hero and demonstrate your persistence?

People love happy endings. The book about your writing journey should definitely have one. Rejection is not the last page of the story. It’s the finishing line of the chapter that makes your audience gasp and wait for the new adventures. Don’t disappoint them.

Remember: you’re the center of the story of your life. You have everything to make it absolutely awesome. Have a rest and move on—there’s so much to discover yet.

Regine Ward head shotRegine Ward is a freelance writer/blogger and tutor at Do My Homework Online. Her main values are lifelong learning, helping people become the best versions of themselves, and constant self-improvement. In her free time Regine travels, reads, drinks coffee, and bakes cookies. Find her on Twitter or Facebook.

10 Responses to “7 Common Truths That Will Help Writers Handle Rejection Productively”

  1. Leanne Dyck August 31, 2016 at 8:28 am #

    Thank you for this, Regina. I especially like picturing myself as protagonist of my story–a very creative solution.

    If I may add to the list, success means different things to different people. One writer may simply want to share their writing with family and friends. Another writer may want to self-publish a book to raise money for their favourite charity. I’d describe both of these authors as success.

    Oh, yes… It really helps me to celebrate my small successes on my way to my big success–becoming a traditionally published author.

    Wishing you continued success

    • Regine Ward September 12, 2016 at 7:23 am #

      That’s a great one, Leanne, thank you. Patting ourselves on the back sometimes is a great “motive power”.

  2. George M. August 31, 2016 at 1:45 pm #

    Great post. Rejection is not an easy thing for me to accept. But these tips will certainly help. I especially like the tip about imagining yourself in the story. I never thought of inserting myself into a story. But it makes sense. Putting myself into the shoes of a character gains great perspective. Thank you.

    • Regine Ward September 12, 2016 at 7:28 am #

      thanks for the comment, George! keep going and try Leanne’s advice above – small victories are surely worth celebrating!

  3. Susannah MacDonald August 31, 2016 at 3:01 pm #

    Great advice! Thank you Regina. I always say that all my characters are aspects of myself and that creates an immediacy which is not there if the protagonist/antagonist is ‘over there’.

    • Regine Ward September 15, 2016 at 7:33 am #

      I believe that gives both new perspective and motivation to keep the story moving. Happy you liked the article, Susannah!

  4. Debbie September 1, 2016 at 11:26 am #

    At least it is a reaction rather than no one noticing the book at all or not feeling strongly enough about it to say anything.

    Author Jim. C. Hines blog said “…Those harsh reviews aren’t about anyone being out to get me. It’s not an Authors vs. Reviewers thing. It’s people taking the time to express their opinions because they care about this stuff…”

    • Regine Ward September 15, 2016 at 7:35 am #

      so true, Debbie. Rejection is often an opportunity to step onto a new path.

  5. David H. Safford September 3, 2016 at 6:41 am #

    Thanks for the encouragement, Regine! I’m days away from the launch of my first book, and I’m expecting the avalanche of rejection to come any minute now.

    It’s all about attitude. Since this is my first self-published launch, I need to approach it with a sober mind. If I really want to build a writing career, I need to learn how to do this, and often the only way to learn something is to do it wrong. Thank you for the encouragement and sense of perspective. I’d love to make it through this launch without a panic attack (or four).

    • Regine Ward September 12, 2016 at 7:34 am #

      I wish you all the luck of the world along the way! You’ve written a book which is a great achievement already. So keep moving and try to make the best of the journey.

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